After a dozen years of having dreadlocks, it is suddenly popular to call me out as a racist for it. The ‘activists’ who are doing this have been given explicit license to disregard my feelings about my identity in this, so nothing I say is allowed, or accepted.
Fuck you, bully. If you cannot have a conversation with me as a human, without implying I am a racist before the conversation even begins, then fuck you. Nothing in your culture war justifies treating people poorly. I am not oppressing you, I just have a hairstyle that is suddenly unpopular. I am fine with having conversations about it, but I don’t talk to anyone about anything if they treat me like shit.
I have dreadlocks for reasons that have nothing at all to do with black culture. If you cared to ask, it is my statement against white beauty standards perpetrated by a media that say as a white woman I must have long straight hair. For the last twelve years Ive made this statement, and never once was I called a racist. Ive had black people come up and admire my dreads, but not one was ever offended enough to say anything to me.
Black people didn’t just wake up this year, nor did they just now find their voice – black people have been fighting angrily and loudly for their rights and proper consideration for much longer than I have had dreads, and I have always supported that. My hair has nothing to do with it, however.
I am not even certain how dreadlocks became a ‘black’ hairstyle in the first place, other that it was made popular by Rastafarians, who are black. Every humans hair, regardless of race or color, can and will turn into dreadlocks simply by not brushing it anymore. That is all I really did to start mine.
The notion that I somehow get a free pass for being a white woman with dreadlocks is fucking ridiculous. I have been rejected for jobs and dates. I have been harassed in public many, many times; “wash your hair bitch!”, “wheres the weed at?”, “you would look much prettier without dreads”. Don’t think for a moment I have it easier somehow; I don’t, but the narrative being sold by cultural activists doesn’t allow for this reality. Somehow, I am a ‘magic whitey’ that gets to do whatever I want with my hair without consequence – which of course is bullshit. Maybe rich and famous Miley Cyrus can get away with that, but not any dreadlock wearing mamma Ive ever met.
Your outrage over my hairstyle and complete lack of regard for my identity and life only serves to lower you to the same level as your oppressors. You know, the ones that actually do real harm to people by dismissing their life struggles and feelings in favor of conformity to standards.